This is the third post in a series that I wrote in response to a comment about my most recent headcovering post that addressed the problem of husbands who forbid their wives from covering (or even dressing modestly). The first post can be found here and the second post can be seen here.
You say that husbands are hurt by their wives “incorrect attitudes” in being called by God to cover. Really? I think their wives are hurt by the fact that their husbands have embraced the norms of a world drenched in sin and moral relativism.
And really, I don’t see a lot of strong, Catholic men, of the variety you describe forbidding their wives from honoring the presence of God in the tabernacle by veiling. I see men who have strong Catholic wives who are themselves lukewarm in their faith forbidding their wives. I don’t think they’re the majority, as you state, Anonymous. But they are a large enough contingent to be notable (thus the post).
You say that covering is being “attached to a piece of cloth” but for many women it’s a powerful personal devotion that draws them nearer to God. Would a woman who’s husband was against the rosary be expected to give it up if her husband announced that he forbid her pray it?
You point out that certain saints have been called to suffer because of their superior’s inability to see the light of God in their lives. That does sometimes happen. And suffering can be a means to growth. But should those who are suppressing another’s growth thus be encouraged their practice?
Another point was of the “they just want to see their wives hair” variety. Most of the women I’ve talked to about this long for a chapel veil. That doesn’t exactly disguise a woman’s hair from view. And I think most men could handle not viewing their wives hair for, on average, an hour each week. If they can’t handle an hour a week then there most definitely is a problem. And it’s the husband’s problem.
You say that I’m “starting a crusade” against “anti-headcovering husbands.” That was never my intent (and frankly I don’t think I have the power on my little blog to “start a crusade” of any sort… thanks for the vote of confidence though…). In fact I’m very clear on what I would do if I were in this position (and I did say that I would submit and pray).
Maybe you understand my point a bit more at this point Anonymous. And maybe you would understand a bit more if you actually read the posts I linked too (or you could click here to see everything I have to say about headcovering). Please, if you decide to comment in the futre, don’t take my words out of context or twist what I’m saying. And please don’t accuse me of attacking strong, devout Catholic men when I’m doing nothing of the sort.