The last comment I received was from a "long-time reader" who withheld their name. Okay you guys, am I really so bad that you're afraid to leave your name if you disagree with me? I would hope that a long time reader would know me well enough to know that we can disagree and discuss without... One of you, who did use a name, actually showed me that I was totally off the mark on something I said last week and I freely admitted it. Back to the post. Here is the comment (I don't want to be misquote anyone and this comment did get me thinking):
I really didn't think this person's comment was all that unreasonable, unkind, or implied all the things you say it did. Maybe if you are that emotionally invested you would be inclined to take such offense. I just feel like you are off the mark with this one. Sorry.
"I just think we aught to be careful not to cling too tightly to our preferences when it is not a matter of sin. "
I think this was their point and it is a good point, imo.
sincerely, long-time reader
JUNE 5, 2011 7:05 PM
My initial response is below:
Hi Anon @ 7:05pm-
I think I have a pretty thick skin after two years of less than friendly comments for a variety of reasons. However, accusing someone of going on an crusade against Catholic men isn't exactly friendly nor is the implication that I'm making husbands out to be "monsters."
Let's turn the quote you sited on its head: I think we aught be careful not to forbid each other our small offerings to God because we prefer the preferences of our morally relativistic fallen world.
Any emotional investment I have in this is the sorrow I feel for the women I've heard from who have husband who insist on controlling their wives dress... funny, if the man were insisting his wife wear dresses and cover I have a feeling more people would be offended by it. Because these women long for modesty though it's just "personal preference."
JUNE 5, 2011 8:15 PM
But as I waited for Sadie to fall asleep tonight, I had ample time to think. I still don't agree that the initial comment was friendly or particularly kind. The language didn't really leave much room for that (and I'll admit, my response wasn't particularly friendly either!). But I think both of the anonymous commenters and I will have a hard time agreeing because I don't think we agree on how we view covering. And here's what I think a part of the problem is:
Is covering a "calling" or a "personal preference?"
And because I'm afraid this post is already getting rather lengthy, I'm going to write my opinion on the answer to this question in the next post!