here, that apparently brought down the rage of this little realm of internet existence.
After reading a few "manosphere" posts I began to see a trend, could unfortunately understand the manosphere lingo, and could almost stop shaking my head after clicking away from the posts. It was more difficult however, to stop the constant stream of blog-post worthy thought that began in response to the adolescent screech of the manosphere.
Let me sum up what I saw, by beginning with what I believe is the underlying foundation of the manosphere. The existence of the far out there radical feminism that left me shaking my head in college (when I was about as liberal as one can be) has led to a reactionary movement, equally disturbing and twisted, where men tout themselves as "Alphas" and call other, less manosphere worthy men "Betas" (really guys, Brave New World? That's what you want to emulate?) and talk about how women aren't worthy of their greatness but are (insert crude term here) who need to be forced back into their place as serving wench, with our obviously inferior minds and anatomy.
I'll admit that my first thought, as I read these manopshere posts, was that in my experience, the most masculine men that I know, don't usually go around talking about how masculine they are. They don't go around calling themselves "Alphas" and labeling other men as "Betas." They're kindly respectful of women, regardless of whether or not the woman is acting like a lady. They would never think of using the crude terms flung around the manosphere. They help the people around them and live by their own code of honor, because they know what's right and they know what's wrong and they have chosen the better part. They stand up against the evil and the base and speak out against it, because they know that someone must stand against the darkness and the chaos of our fallen world. However, they don't go around beating their chests and asserting that they're more manly than everyone else.
In fact I'd have to say my first reaction to a man acting in that manner is that there must be something fragile and threatened that causes them to shout: "I am a man! I am great! I am better than you!" from the rooftops.
The most common response that I've witnessed, to any critique of the manosphere is that those who question are simply of inferior intelligence, unable to understand the superior intellect of the manosphere blogger and his followers. They don't realize that the insult: "you're so dumb you don't can't understand me" doesn't actually win an argument.
It's all really quite sad.
It's also the perfect example of how we can take a good thing, like masculinity and the desire to strive to "be a man" and we can twist it into something perverted and damaging. In our pride we can take a tiny grain of truth and goodness and turn it into something that is hardly recognizable, but that retains a certain appeal that is not totally base because one small part of the idea remains true.
And this is why it's so important that we raise sons who know what it truly means to be a man, so that they will never be tempted to latch on to this new societal definition of masculinity that tells them that they must raise themselves up by smashing everyone else around them into the mud. That should never be any societies definition of masculinity.