tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post2946043738970541270..comments2024-01-16T04:04:41.045-05:00Comments on Someday I'll Sleep Autism Blogs: On Being Ready for Marriage...Cammie Dianehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07137080807945525006noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-53943829846625532332012-02-16T13:18:53.527-05:002012-02-16T13:18:53.527-05:00Sometimes you just know that the person is the one...Sometimes you just know that the person is the one your going to marry after only a few weeks. My parents meet in February of 86, were engaged by May and married in august. With me being born the following May. This year they are going to celebrate 26 years of being happily married.Carissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02161144492587350634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-49429142266236145692012-02-16T07:56:37.466-05:002012-02-16T07:56:37.466-05:00Congratulations Ann!!!! Prayers too!!!!Congratulations Ann!!!! Prayers too!!!!Cammie Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07137080807945525006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-62950413856644025772012-02-16T04:44:59.408-05:002012-02-16T04:44:59.408-05:00Wonderful blog post! I met my husband at the end ...Wonderful blog post! I met my husband at the end of August or Early September... we were talking marriage within two months. Being that I was in my mid-40's and he was 15 years older meant we both knew a lot about ourselves and we recognized how good we were together and how insanely nuts we were about each other from the first conversation. We got a marriage license in December but did Christmas apart to test ourselves. The license was a test, if it freaked us out, then something was wrong. January we married, actually eloped and then had to set things right with the Church-- my bad, I knew better, but I'm not always a poster child for getting the details right up front. We will be having our second child today. <br /><br />Nobody is ever really ready. It can be difficult at any age. IN our case, hubby has some decidedly strong opinions that I find I agree with in theory but find very difficult to accommodate-- this is one of those things that make him an excellent influence on my growth in sanctity. I see some of his more rigid edges getting softer and I find some of my less admirable traits getting much needed pressure to improve. Never easy but so very welcome!<br /><br />Marriage is work and it is designed to help us grow in virtue together. How can anyone actually be ready for that? We just do it and trust God for the rest.Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17524883650410009114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-66575461079535040742012-02-16T02:51:24.495-05:002012-02-16T02:51:24.495-05:00Such a lovely story!
I didn't marry early, I ...Such a lovely story!<br /><br />I didn't marry early, I was too gun-shy. It took a few years of dating and months of living with my now-husband (yes, naughty me, I know) before I realized that this was truly the right thing and that he was safe for me to live with. There was also a LOT of therapy in there...<br /><br />Sadly, the most common reaction when someone announces an engagement after a short time tends to be "so, when's the baby due?". Not that babies are horrible, of course--but the assumption that every short courtship/engagement equals a shotgun wedding is a little frustrating!C. G. Burnshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03571990151813410875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-57609343335904598152012-02-15T15:00:04.648-05:002012-02-15T15:00:04.648-05:00This was a great post! I had no idea you were such...This was a great post! I had no idea you were such a recent convert.<br /><br />I love your advice in the end. The 22 year old me was certainly not ready to get married and I know my family didn't approve, but they stuck by us and prayed for us. 21 years and 7 children later, we are still fumbling our way toward holiness :)Maurisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06489369133555827520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-32195811513686164092012-02-15T11:57:15.400-05:002012-02-15T11:57:15.400-05:00Haha. I'm with you on that we. We technically ...Haha. I'm with you on that we. We technically got engaged on our first date. Yes, we had talked online and through text messages before we met in person. I was only 21. Everyone said for us not to get married. In fact, the only people who supported us were his sisters. <br /><br />Four years later (yes, I know that's not considered that long) we still love each other so much. I feel that we knew we were going to get married. There was no reason for us to wait some arbitrary time just to make everyone else happy. One of my friends actually told me not to because we hadn't lived together yet. OK, sure.Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12002776979337962467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-82124555163387896622012-02-15T09:51:17.282-05:002012-02-15T09:51:17.282-05:00Lovely post.
But the thought of Cam with a neck t...Lovely post.<br /><br />But the thought of Cam with a neck tattoo... :)<br /><br />Mariedixieaglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12923834034976250382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-29928476427930330432012-02-15T09:09:32.535-05:002012-02-15T09:09:32.535-05:00I agree, and I tend to think way too many people w...I agree, and I tend to think way too many people wait way too long to get married or have kids. One thing I've observed, is that the more time one spends as a single (not responsible for anyone else, not living with anyone else, not needing to make compromise, etc.) adult, the harder it is for them to adjust to married life and even harder to adjust to having children. I think spending too much time living alone (and being single) tends to make people more "selfish" in that they don't have to worry about anyone but their self. <br /><br />We got engaged after only knowing each other for 6 months (and only dating for about 3), and were married 10 months after that. I do think marriage and having kids is one of those things that if you wait until you are ready, it never happens. Not that people should just jump in heedlessly, as marriage is until death, but I think waiting too long is also detrimental.<br /><br />I used to feel strongly that one should wait for marriage until they are all finished with their schooling, but then realized that people can change careers all the time or decide to go back to school after having a career (as my husband did) so it really doesn't matter, so now I just think people should get married as soon as they find the right person. LOLAmelia Bentruphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04289052534608175705noreply@blogger.com