tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post3653266988985224356..comments2024-01-16T04:04:41.045-05:00Comments on Someday I'll Sleep Autism Blogs: What I Wore Sunday and My Mixed Feelings on "Cry Rooms"Cammie Dianehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07137080807945525006noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-9030276408270252052013-07-25T19:34:26.721-04:002013-07-25T19:34:26.721-04:00I agree with you 100%!! We have a weird situation ...I agree with you 100%!! We have a weird situation at our church. We have mostly older parishioners, and the young families that do come are very reverent...so the cry room is used as intended when the young families are in there. BUT a lot of the older people sit back in the cry room and sometimes talk or whatnot and that makes it hard to use the way it's intended. I've also been to parishes like you describe - where cry rooms are free-for-alls, and I totally agree that those need to be done away with!Michele Chronisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05328455640818231923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-13753919154434991352013-07-22T21:02:31.150-04:002013-07-22T21:02:31.150-04:00I can deal with crying babies. The only thing that...I can deal with crying babies. The only thing that really bothered me was when a kid behind me was chomping on a can of Pringles potato chips during Mass. Because he was leaning forward, the crunching was right in my ear. Plus, the smell of Pringles first thing in the morning made me feel a little queasy. So my husband and I moved down a few pews. <br /><br />Crying I can handle, but food crunching and strong food chomping is a bit much. <br /><br />Then there was a time an adult woman took her shoes off and scratched her feet for about fifteen minutes. All I heard was scritch scritch scritch, scritch scritch scritch. And this was at a Latin High Mass! <br /><br />Anyway, after the Pringles chomping and the foot scratching incidents, a crying baby or babbling toddler doesn't phase me at all! <br /><br />Maryann E.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12657281659463875079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-71407120260889631722013-07-22T14:24:37.306-04:002013-07-22T14:24:37.306-04:00I found this post interesting because I recognize ...I found this post interesting because I recognize your church from the pictures and I know that there are lots of people who have started to go there primarily because both priests are such excellent homilists. I don't blame these people; I go there from time to time myself and it's always very encouraging to hear solid teaching delivered in such a beautifully tangible way. But ultimately, no matter how well or awkwardly the homily is delivered, the Eucharist should be the primary focus of the Mass. And I guess it's a wonder to me that people don't know that; that they can recognize the importance of orthodox teaching, even to the point of possibly switching parishes to hear it, be intent to listen to every word of it, but then migrate to the back for the Eucharist? <br /><br />Honestly for us it's the other way around. Our kids know that they can't leave during the consecration, or the Gospel and if they need to use the bathroom (and they always do amazingly) they need to either wait for the homily or, if the homily is ended, for the end of Mass. (exceptions made for emergencies, we learned the hard way that you can't be hard nosed about the bathroom). Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10449189050973961508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-10799050678047149352013-07-22T11:00:21.315-04:002013-07-22T11:00:21.315-04:00Time for a homily on children's behavior at Ma...Time for a homily on children's behavior at Mass. On parish I was at; the pastor was in process of removing the cry room as he wanted children to be welcome at Mass (and probably felt that if they were all in the pews; there might not be as much socializing?<br />Another disruption at some churches is at a 'children's" Mass where they leave to get "liturgy of the word" given in child format. The parents often take the kids and then when they come back may find their seats taken by latecomers. Nice. But it is disruptive and plus it's kind of a Protestant Sunday school deal. At my current parish; this doesn't happen but it does have awesome sacramental prep classes after Mass and on Saturdays!Patiencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08567149340809225297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-35889920780788589392013-07-21T23:11:02.035-04:002013-07-21T23:11:02.035-04:00I haven't been at a parish that has a cry room...I haven't been at a parish that has a cry room. Or been in one besides one parish where we were attending a baptism. No one was paying attention. Some parents brought loud toys and blankets for their kids to park themselves on. It was horrible. <br /><br />I have been greatly blessed that my daughter is relatively calm. This is just the way she was born. And we only have one child (sadly due to infertility). But, with that all said, I have taken her out into the narthex and even outside if her screaming had reached a decibel level. But our intention was to get back into the church and listen. We attend the TLM with Exposition on the first Sunday of every month. She makes it through and has mostly since she turned two. I do allow a non-dripy cup of milk at mass on those long Sundays and some quiet books and her lovey. But she has learned not to disturb anyone, mostly. But like I said, it is due to her temprament. <br /><br />And for the record, I don't find crying babies/toddlers distracting at mass. Just horrible liturgy and priests that use real sign language (like today, it was awful.). Ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09136169986057927090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-28634065203905756622013-07-21T21:50:44.343-04:002013-07-21T21:50:44.343-04:00We don't have a cry room. My daughter is 3 mon...We don't have a cry room. My daughter is 3 months old and absolutely flips out if I dare to sit down in a pew while holding her, so for the majority of the Mass I'm in the narthex trying to rock her to sleep in the Ergo, and keep her from throwing a fit. I see a few other parents with fussy babies as well, and we all exchange the sympathetic glances and smiles. No worries. <br /><br />Unfortunately, there are three families who also have given up any hopes of sitting in the pews, but they don't have babies. They have children who are-roughly-preschool age, and they let those kids run wild. Shrieking, throwing things, hitting one another, all while the parents (who are apparently deaf) ignore them and carry on conversations with one another. I've found myself in almost the exact same situation as you; trying to stay focused on the Mass, trying veryveryvery hard not to get angry, and keeping myself from blowing up because one of the children, who was racing around, bumped into me and woke up Alessandra, who had finally drifted off to sleep. It's unpleasant, and I resent these parents who have zero interest in at least ATTEMPTING to make their children behave. They just hang out in the narthex and let them run wild. <br /><br />Anyway! Rant over. :) Side note, I really love your outfit! Those colors are beautiful.Marisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00977382355749851597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-70352991657710184152013-07-21T20:55:44.782-04:002013-07-21T20:55:44.782-04:00The main reason I haven't been nursing in the ...The main reason I haven't been nursing in the pew is because he's sooooo distractible when he first starts nursing and keeps unlatching and looking around and then screaming because he's not nursing... so I take him out until he gets so sleepy that he's not super distracted. <br /><br />That cry room does sound horrible! Phones during Mass are just bad...Cammie Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07137080807945525006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-28367202093531575652013-07-21T20:49:10.810-04:002013-07-21T20:49:10.810-04:00I despise cry rooms. Seriously...they give me hive...I despise cry rooms. Seriously...they give me hives. :-P<br /><br />The old parish we went to had one at the back of the church. One morning, my middle child (who was not even one at the time), was having a tough time, so I took him to the cry room. There were a handful of kids, all playing loudly, and the adults were ignoring their behavior (and the mass, while they checked out their phone.) When the priest began the Eucharistic prayer, the kids started running circles around the two rows of chairs. Rather than chastise them, the adults moved the chairs apart so the kids would have more room, and started to chat with one another. DURING COMMUNION!!! Just thinking about this memory makes my blood boil!<br /><br />On a side note- why not just nurse in the pew? I've actually spoken with a few priests about it, and all have encouraged me to do so if needed. It might make things easier for you. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-25776248696921110272013-07-21T17:25:36.189-04:002013-07-21T17:25:36.189-04:00Definitely with a sign! I know that's why I d...Definitely with a sign! I know that's why I dislike going to the "children's Mass" as it is because I feel like there's an expectation that I need to send Sadie away for Mass with the kids and I don't because I think she should be there at Mass during Mass... but that's likely it's own post!Cammie Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07137080807945525006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-26749664263406171202013-07-21T16:27:39.114-04:002013-07-21T16:27:39.114-04:00Cam! I have to admit, I was a little worried that ...Cam! I have to admit, I was a little worried that I would throw a link-up and no one would come, so thanks. I'm thinking the solution here is to have two cry rooms: the "In it to win it" cry room and the "Let's face it, we've given up" cry room. But there should also be a big sign over them that says "Please do not tell parents that this cry room exists. They know. They just don't want to be in here. Hey, is that something in your eye?"Kendra Tierneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04212829372556908004noreply@blogger.com