tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post546492715871803898..comments2024-01-16T04:04:41.045-05:00Comments on Someday I'll Sleep Autism Blogs: Misconceptions about Discipline and AutismCammie Dianehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07137080807945525006noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-12650492827486661392014-06-28T23:40:37.689-04:002014-06-28T23:40:37.689-04:00Sorry, not on topic, but I wasn't sure where e...Sorry, not on topic, but I wasn't sure where else to post it...<br /><br />Just so you know, in a stroke of what must be *the* most misdirected marketing I have ever seen, the mobile version of your blog is currently running banner ads for (drumroll, please) Planned Parenthood.<br /><br />Thought you'd want to know. It did give me quite a giggle--I mean, seriously?! Talk about target audiences, or, more accurately, whatever the complete opposite of target audiences are--but...yeah... :p~Katherine~https://www.blogger.com/profile/12138257993961072758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-68238158012052068942014-06-28T22:05:03.465-04:002014-06-28T22:05:03.465-04:00I work with three year olds for a living and have ...I work with three year olds for a living and have been working at the same place for 12 years. Many neurotypical three year olds are not ready to potty train yet. I have a cute story though about a child in my class last year who we later found out was on the spectrum as wel. He was not potty trained and was not interested in potty training. Well, his mother kept putting pull ups on him. One day I noticed that he HATED to get wet so I got an idea to try letting him wear underwear to school. Well, we gave him Cheezits as a reward if he peepeed in the potty. After getting himself wet one time, he used the potty after that. LOL. Of course this wouldn't work with every child but it just shows that sometimes we have to be creative and think outside the box with certain children. One size certainly does not fit all. Good Luck in your adventures!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16593522588133048222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-62944934167447827552014-06-27T12:43:41.524-04:002014-06-27T12:43:41.524-04:00Good for you niece! Well said!
And I just want t...Good for you niece! Well said! <br />And I just want to add...I had a 2 year old in diapers when we got our daughter with an ostomy. Then we had more surgeries and skin care with her. I did not worry about my neurotypical 2 year old and had 2 in diapers. Somewhere in the late 3 year old/4 year old age he said I want to use the big potty. And from that day on he did. No training, no little potty, nothing. While everyone can't wait that long because of child care and such, I do believe we push too hard sometimes. <br />But again, very good post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-35129370895081543982014-06-27T09:44:45.445-04:002014-06-27T09:44:45.445-04:00Of my 5 daughters, 4 trained a little after 2 with...Of my 5 daughters, 4 trained a little after 2 with no drama. DD #4 at 2 yrs fought and screamed anytime we took her near a toilet. She finally trained at 3.75. It took a whole Summer, not a weekend. This same child walked at 7 months, read fluently at 4 but couldn't control a pencil enough to write or color until nearly 8. She is generally a serious, compliant child but suffers from great anxiety. She spends more time than any 9 yr old should feeling the weight of her sinfulness, so I can't believe this was a discipline issue.<br /> And on the point of the theology, if we as Catholics believe that people are not suffering from total depravity(as protestants do), and are incapable of personal sin until around 7, how can a child of 2 or 3 be expected to not be respecting their Christian dignity?<br /> And.. I am sorry I provoked a blog post in the past too. I was judging by the way people treat people in our parish which is so different than you described your experience. I am praying that where ever your husband lands in his first law job, the parish folds you up in love and care and support in the way they should.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17732712850997397004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-9370051044400291342014-06-27T09:31:47.816-04:002014-06-27T09:31:47.816-04:00My son was four. He is neurotypical (as far as I ...My son was four. He is neurotypical (as far as I can tell). He also lived in three different places and his dad is often away. Some kids are dealing with a lot of things on their plate.<br /><br />There is a huge difference between trying and not trying at all. I think people think that parents are lazy or children are bad.<br /><br />There is nothing wrong with taking a little longer to learn something.<br /><br />And it isn't beneath someone's dignity to soil themselves. Sometimes crap happens. As an adult, I've had a few accidents that I had no control over. Let's just say vaginal childbirth changes everything. Would you call it beneath my Christian dignity? Or say that I am stubborn? Sheesh.Deltaflutehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00489950329698009256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-82638021611968767452014-06-27T09:25:35.426-04:002014-06-27T09:25:35.426-04:00I swear the more I read your blog the more I'm...I swear the more I read your blog the more I'm convinced my daughter has a mild form of autism. She is 15 now, and honestly - I was just (I'll be honest here...." complaining again about how consequences have little meaning for her, and how something great to work for that she wants doesn't do much to change behaviors. She runs in circles EVERY. SINGLE. DAY in her own world, and a anxiety? She is a poster girl for it, and is on medication. That's not all... but I feel like I've telling a whole roster of professionals for years that she isn't quite normal, but no one really listens because she can seem quite normal - especially to those who have just met her.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14855258283549942928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-84365430424138801092014-06-27T09:15:07.341-04:002014-06-27T09:15:07.341-04:00Good grief! My daughter is 2 1/2 and she's no...Good grief! My daughter is 2 1/2 and she's not showing any signs of interest in potty training. I have no plans at all of starting it anytime soon. When she's ready, we'll go for it, until then I'm not concerned in the slightest. I'm pretty sure this isn't going to be a salvation issue for my child OR yours so I don't see the point in stressing about it. ((HUG)) You are a great mama and you love your kids! Good job!!Vernahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06478658669344479650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-89591135682689893382014-06-27T07:35:07.962-04:002014-06-27T07:35:07.962-04:00Thank you so much for your comment anonymous, and ...Thank you so much for your comment anonymous, and truly that is why I blog about it... because before going through this with Mae I really couldn't understand it and likely would have had some of the same thoughts... having her has totally changed so much of what I thought I knew, but I can definitely understand how it can be hard to understand from the outside! Thank you for your comment!Cammie Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07137080807945525006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-32681123616921943162014-06-27T07:14:59.836-04:002014-06-27T07:14:59.836-04:00Thank you for this post! It is so beautiful to se...Thank you for this post! It is so beautiful to see true parenting with compassion.Shannon @ Some Fine Tatershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15121640225745444061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-92044462551289816402014-06-27T03:48:24.303-04:002014-06-27T03:48:24.303-04:00One of the reasons that I decided to take my daugt...One of the reasons that I decided to take my daugther to a psyquiatrist at five yo was that she did not respond to disciplne. Discipline works when the child can control his/her behavior. The child has an experience of time out or beying deprived of a privilege (that's discipline in this house) and doesn't like it. When the next time the child is warned, s/he remembers the consequence and makes an effort to behave. My daugther remembered the consequence but was unable to control her behavior through effort and suffered terribly in the process. <br />One thing that backseat parents often overlook is the suffering of our children. Spoilt children pretend their drama, children with disabilities or mental illness suffer terribly and our first goal as parents, IMO, is to lessen their suffering first, find ways for them to behave with others second. Usually these go hand in hand.<br />I refer all backseat parents to my child's psyquiatrist, encouraging them to tell her, not me. Things deemed worthy of telling a silly mother who is being taken on my her daughter are usually not told to the smartly dressed professional with the title on the wall.<br />Sending you lots of courage,<br />LucíaLucía Moreno-Velohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06161529503085173269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8188078120365131355.post-70766200358412051282014-06-27T00:11:34.567-04:002014-06-27T00:11:34.567-04:00Sorry I wrote those things. I didn't realize. ...Sorry I wrote those things. I didn't realize. A lot of parents these days let the kids dictate when they will train which is a big mistake, but I now see where you are coming from. Again I apologize for insulting you. It sounds like you do keep your kids in line and are doing all you can for a complicated situation. I wish you success in potty training and otherwise. Thank you for sharing this info honestly some kids I know with autism I did feel their parents let them get away with murder but now I see maybe they are doing the best they can. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com