|James is not impressed.|
I have a love-hate relationship with my c-sections. I hate that I had to have them, but I love that I'm alive and that my kids are alive and healthy and if c-sections weren't around none of us would be.
Sadie was born after five hours of pushing (without an epidural). When I was being wheeled in for my c-section the words "I'm going to die" had been on repeat in my head for the better part of an hour. And apparently they weren't far wrong. Doctor after doctor (including our very nature-friendly family doctor) who I saw in the hours and days and weeks after the c-section volunteered the information that neither of us would have survived without the c-section.
Patch was transverse. He'd been turned twice and was head down when an ultrasound was done while I was laboring in the hospital but sometime before my water broke (naturally) he turned himself around again and went back to his favorite position. Both of our boys just seemed to love that position while they were in the womb. Transverse likely wouldn't have ended while for me (or Patch) without a c-section either (even the all natural hypno-babies program that I did for that thirty-something hour trial of labor admits that transverse babies need c-sections).
|Gearing up for c-section #4.|
Right now there's a popular article floating around my Facebook feed about the "cruelty" of c-sections. They make the claim that c-sections are a form of birth control to prevent women from having more babies.
I find myself... skeptical. I think that there are plenty of reasons that c-sections are done. Many are absolutely necessary and lifesaving for the mother or the baby (or both). Some probably are the result of doctors who are being over cautious because of a fear of lawsuits in the event that something does go wrong that might have been prevented. I will admit that the c-section rate is very high in our country. I seriously doubt, however, that many doctors are suggesting that first c-section as a way to discourage women from having more kids. Is it within the realm of possibility that someone out there has that motivation? Yes. Does it seem likely that many doctors do? I just don't buy it.
I know that the motivation behind these articles is to encourage women to avoid c-sections, but I sometimes feel they overestimate the number of women who say "Oh you know what sounds fun? Having to recover from major abdominal surgery while caring for a newborn!" And so they come out swinging about the evils of c-sections and I feel that they often do so at the expense of women who have to do have to have them.
|Sadie after that first c-section.|
When a woman begins to look into birthing she's likely to find a vocal portion of those writing about the subject passionately talking about the benefits of natural birth. That isn't a bad thing. I think natural births are amazing. I desperately wanted one. They just aren't always possible.
However I have a huge problem with the mindset that says that only one "type" of birth is good is good, only one is beautiful. Some women even struggle to call their c-sections "giving birth" and I think in large part that's because of the shaming that's done when c-sections come up. Your choices are suddenly questioned and you may even be told "well you could have done this and this and this" and you "likely wouldn't have needed one then."
I've been told that repeatedly when I've spoken up about the benefits (mainly not dying) of the surgery.
So for those of you out there who've felt doubts about your c-section, who've been questioned and made to feel like less of a mother because of the way in which you're child came into the world, I'd like to say that those who've made you feel that way are so, so very wrong. Perhaps they are well meaning, but they are also still wrong. Your birth and whatever way you brought your little one into the world is a hard but beautiful thing.
We are blessed to live in an age when doctors can save mothers and babies far more often than they could in past generations. I'm reminded of that fact after hearing these claims of the "cruelty of c-sections" every time I look at my little family, which wouldn't exist if it weren't for that technology which so many feel the need to speak out against. I'm thankful for c-sections and for all those lives that have been saved by the surgery. Without it my family wouldn't exist.