Thank you all for the comments and suggestions and prayers!
One of the biggest problems is that in this case it isn't that our insurance won't pay. They will. It's that the doctors and staff won't bill our insurance (the hospital itself does, but apparently their staff and labs don't... we specifically called and left another hospital, closer to our home, because they didn't...). It's so frustrating because we'd been very careful researching the insurance issue before we left for the hospital.
But what can you do?
I do have a little hopeful news. My dad called and talked to the payment company after my hysterical call, while Paul was in a meeting with a professor. In the beginning the woman he spoke with just listened. Then he got to the part about no one coming into the room and the actual miscarriage and she gasped. Apparently the culturally overused: "OMG!" was her next response.
So it really was that bad.
She then told him to have me write everything out, in detail from beginning to end and send it to them. And she put a note on the bills saying that they were being disputed. Hopefully the letter I write will be used to forgive some or all of the bills.
I am especially thankful that I wrote that blog the day after the miscarriage. Now I can go back and add all the awful details in, but the bulk of what happened was written when it was fresh in my mind.
Now to get the bunnies to bed. It's half an hour after bedtime and they are still bouncing off the walls.
Sadie was on my lap when I saw the bills and burst into tears and said: "Mommy, why are you crying?" and then "I want to make you happy!"
And they do.