That is too funny!!! That's toddlers for you. :)Marie
Hi there,Sorry this has nothing to do with your most recent post - but I have a question. I'm also a Catholic mom (I'm 26) who was/is open to having a large family, but after two Cesarean sections, my doctor said he really doesn't like to see C-section moms have more than three pregnancies. This, of course, really scared me and broke my heart. On the one hand, I am grateful for lifesaving C-sections - on the other hand, my husband and I are not comfortable with ever-escalating risk to me and the baby as I have more pregnancies. Dying and leaving my kids without a mother and having to have my husband plan my funeral is one of my worst nightmares.I see that you are a fellow C-section mama who is open to having more children - what has your doctor told you about this? Mine said the risk of abruption and placenta accreta go up as a woman has more Cesareans. Those are both seriously life-threatening. I am scared. How do you feel? Most people I know say, "Who would want more than three kids anyway?" It's hard for people to understand how VBAC bans affect moms who are open to large families, but don't want to take on unnecessary risk. Our hospitals also don't allow VBACs. Thanks and may God bless you and your beautiful family!
Hi Kateri-It's such a frustrating topic. You might want to get a second, more personalized opinion from another doctor who isn't as set on the "3 C-sections and done" mentality but who takes each patient on a case by case basis. I can see telling a woman that her life was in danger if the doctor already sees thinning of the uterus, but if she looks perfectly healthy after 3 C-sections, then I don't understand worrying her any more than the doctor needs to.During my last pregnancy I was a little obsessive. I asked my doctor (who is the kind of doctor who definitely doesn't like questions) if she did the double sutures with c-sections and she looked at me like I was crazy for asking, but I felt a million times better when she said yes because of what I'd read online. At my postpartum checkup I asked how my uterus looked after two c-sections and she said "wonderful." One of the things I like about her (although I doubt that she'll be my doctor for my next pregnancy since we're moving) is that she seems like the type of doctor that likes a challenge, even though she doesn't necessarily have the best bedside manner. I like that I get the impression that she doesn't just go by what is typically done but looks at it on a case by case basis. It is really scary, and it's definitely something you need to work out for yourself. If your doctor tells you your life is at risk I would say you definitely have a serious reason to avoid conceiving. But if you want a larger family you might want to get a second opinion just to see what the doctor says about you in particular. It is just so tough! I wish more Catholic hospitals understood how the ban on VBACs (for insurance purposes) affected Catholic families who are trying to follow Church teaching. Because it seems like it might lower the risk for the hospital in the beginning, but it definitely raises the risk later on.There is one blog I know of that has a lot of c-section information that you might want to check out. It's right here: http://adventuresindiapering.blogspot.com/p/c-sections.htmlHope that helps and God Bless!
If I'm not mistaken Ethel Kennedy had 11 c-sections and I know that Kimberly Hahn had 5. That said the ban on V-bacs makes no sense and there has been some pushback from it (at least here in New England). My daughter's friend's doctor told her she couldn't try for a v-bac because her first baby was born only 15 months before her second (so it was too close to the c-section), but new guidelines came out while she was pregnant and the doctor changed her mind. The second baby was born vaginally, Thanks be to God!The no v-bac policies because of lack of anesthesia coverage are stupid. What would they do if a mother came in in the middle of the night with a prolapsed cord, or other emergency that required a quick c-section? What would they do if a mom with a scheduled c-section went into labor in the middle of the night and progressed rapidly? If a hospital delivers babies at all they need to be prepared to do crash c-section if necessary. Therefore there shouldn't be stupid restrictions on v-bacs. Reasonable ones, certainly, but not routine ones.Oh, and btw I had a placenta accreta and a placenta previa that began abrupting at 25 weeks gestation with my daughter, my previous birth was not a c-section, but a vaginal delivery with forceps and vacuum extractor, followed by a uterine prolapse. Believe me, it isn't just c-sections that cause damage to the uterus. We were fortunate that with a 3 month hospital stay we were able to keep the baby inside until 37 weeks gestation, at which point she was born by c-section. I met other moms who were in the hospital for abruptions, placenta previa, ruptured membranes, and simply pre-term labor. None of them had had previous c-sections. The one good thing about a previous c-section is that you may be monitored a little more closely, so if complications begin to develop they are more apt to be caught before they become catastrophic. In that era, in that hospital, they were managing to keep babies inside moms, even with partial abruptions until between 33 and 37 weeks. It's scary to have a major bleed (I had two, as well as two more minor ones!), but with appropriate care, they can be managed.
My mother had me 28 years ago and I was her 4th C-section at age 40. (Her previous C-sections had been done between 20 and 16 years earlier and she keloided after each section because her body was allergic to the material they sewed her with.) Oh the doctors tried to scare her into aborting me (as they always seem to do). I was going to have Down Syndrome, I'd have CP, I'd have this or that, she'd have a uterine rupture, on and on. Everyone was fine everything worked out. If God wants you to have a large family you will. If he doesn't then you won't. Let God do his job. No use in worrying now. I know that's easier said than done.
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