Friday, November 12, 2010

Sadie Frown of the Week: To Facebook... Or Not to Facebook...

I’ve been thinking about the drawbacks of social networking, particularly facebook, lately. It’s not as if I’m going to be deleting my account anytime soon… it’s too easy to stay in touch with people who I would otherwise not hear from and I love seeing the pictures of all of my friends who have growing families or who are out having adventures in the great big world. The fact that it’s so easy to share pictures with our family members across the country seals the deal. My account isn’t going anywhere any time soon and I will still be checking it pretty much every day.

At the same time, I can’t help but feel kind of sad when I read certain “updates.” I don’t mean updates that are about sad news, or hardships. Those let me know which of the people in my life need prayers at that moment, and I appreciate that aspect of facebook. I also appreciate being able to reach out with a quick comment or email to let the person know that they’re in our prayers.

No, the updates that make me sad often express anger and rage. Very often that rage seems to be directed at God.

Last month a “friend” from college posted an update proclaiming that he was “Jesus Christ” and that “yeah, I just went there,” followed by a rant about Christian hypocrites and how idiotic he thought they were. This was a young man I knew from college, and this wasn’t the first time he’d posted something like this as his update. It was actually a fairly regular event.

I debated my next step. Would I comment back? His other “friends” had already jumped on the bandwagon and were fighting to agree with him and slam Christians the world over (it’s just so trendy at the moment!). And he wasn’t really debating anything that was actually concrete. He was just calling Christians names.

I ended up deleting him from my friends list (and saying a prayer for him). In the end I was just tired of seeing the Redeemer of the World heckled and abused in yet another form (and on such a regular basis). When he comes to mind occasionally (or more specifically his anger at God) I try to remember to pray for God’s transforming grace in his life.

There are other, far less dramatic comments that also weigh on my mind as I scroll down the page. I’m not sure why someone would make fun of other people on facebook… it almost seems like the cruelty of high school, which we really should have outgrown years ago, has carried over into our adult lives. And in the end those comments don’t tell the world something awful about the coworker that we’re complaining about. Sadly… they say much more about the person typing away on the keyboard, trying to make someone else look bad for making a simple mistake (or sometimes for no real reason whatsoever!).

I’m not a saint. I make mistakes every single day. But I want to try to remember to be a little bit kinder to people… even people that I don’t like all that much. And maybe that’s the best reason to keep my facebook account up and running. As a reminder that the world needs a little more kindness and forgiveness and a little less anger and rage.

Some common sense and manners would hurt either!


  1. The world is always in transition as technology changes. If I ever make an inappropriate post, then I hope you will call me on it instead of just deleting me.

  2. Don't worry Cliff, I won't delete you! This was like consistent heckling of Christians in general and Catholics in particular that was just full of hate... it took a lot of work on his part to be intentionally offensive on a weekly basis. In fact if he hadn't been so clear that his intention was to offend (by saying things like "Oh yeah, I went there") I probably would have been a lot less likely to delete him.

  3. Yeah.. FB does have its drawbacks. I haven't had to delete many people, but there's one I'm debating now because everything she posts is negative. I think I've been pretty lucky on there though. Of course 99% of my FB friends are family lol.

  4. I see the same thing in the blogging world. People setting up blogs specifically to dog on people like Walmart People. Whatever happened to Christian charity? I think it's virtually non-existent (and yes that was meant to be a pun).

  5. We Byzantine Catholics start Advent (St Philip's Fast) on Monday. It is still considered on season of penance (and preparation)- I'm going to take a break from Facebook for the season and see what happens :)

  6. As a convert, I wonder if you have a lot of problems with old friends who don't understand who you've become or who are actively negative about Catholicism. I run into this problem a lot. I love my friends and I want to be Christian and charitable and not just abandon them (how bad would that make Catholicism look?) but on the other hand they say such hurtful things! It's tough.


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