I'd hate to burst any bubbles, but as those of you who know me in real life and as those who have gotten to know me via my blog over the past few years have likely already figured out, I'm a pretty regular mom who likes to write, and I happen to share my thoughts here. They reflect my journey as a Catholic convert, wife and mother, doing my best to live out my vocation.
Because I write here every day you sometimes you get to read about my better moments and my not-so-spectacular moments. Most of us who are down here who are members of the Church Militant haven't quite achieved the level of sainthood that bloggers are apparently expected to have before we begin sharing our thoughts in the blogging world. It's pretty obvious that my posts aren't authoritative. They're based on my experiences.
Thus the subject matter here on the blog springs from my experiences. I write about our faith, and our various choices, not to insult others who've made different decisions, but because I'm writing about our life. And for the most part I know that I can describe a choice we've made, and you can make a different choice, and you don't have to feel insulted because we don't agree on what's best for our individual families. So I can write about being a stay-at-home mom, without having to add that I know plenty of great working moms after every sentence I write, just in case someone imagines that my being a stay at home mom is an affront to all the women who've made different choices.
I have to say that I have thought it was odd in the past when I've written a post about something that's happened in my life only to have it met with a response from some outraged reader somewhere, who's pretty certain that my post was an insult to women everywhere. I was baffled when I posted something once about making it to the whatever-month-mark nursing only to receive a note from a friend about how not everyone could breastfeed. Because that wasn't even close to the point of my post.
Apparently at least one reader thinks that I spend a lot of time thinking that my lifestyle choices are the only ones that could possibly be right. While I'm pretty absolute in terms of right and wrong on certain moral/religious issues, imagining that I think our way of sleeping, diapering, educating, and generally running our household is the only way to do it, is simply not true. I do what works best for us. I share it here because, well, this blog is about the things that I know. I'm not going to judge your way of sleeping/diapering/educating/running your household because... well... I can't imagine having the energy to even think about doing that... and to be honest, those aren't the kind of differences I care about. They aren't questions with a wrong or right answer.
Anyways... I hope everyone understands that this is the blog that I write, often late at night when I should be sleeping, or early in the morning when I should be washing dishes, so I really don't have the time to pour over every single word that I write, to see if someone, somewhere could possibly be offended by it. I'm pretty sure quite a few people could (and likely are).
Still, despite my blogging and real life short comings, I don't plan on throwing in the towel any time soon.
So... if my blog is a near occasion of sin for you, if reading it makes you see red and if you'd like to read the worst possible intentions in every word I write, and click away to post a comment that you and I both know I won't publish, then maybe it'd be best to take a deep breath and click the "close" button. Maybe you could say a prayer for me and for the flaws you've found here and we'll both be better off as a result. After all, the last six months haven't been the easiest (you know, four trips to the hospital in three months, the loss of a child, that kind of thing) and carefully pouring over my words after being attacked on what I felt was a pretty mild blog post probably isn't the most important thing in my life at the moment (nor is responding to angry comments that knowingly flout the few combox rules I've asked you to respect).
And for those of you who don't think my blog is the worst thing you've read all week, or who at least understand that I'm human, and don't need to be lectured and accused of being and insensitive, judgmental shrew, thanks for sticking around! I've appreciate what I've learned from you over the past years and the friendships I've discovered!