
Lately, she’s watched me work with pliers and wire, needle,
thread and fabric, yarn, a crochet hook and knitting needles and hammer, nail
and wood (I’ve built seven bookshelves since we moved!) and she seems to have
come to a conclusion: Mommy can make anything.
It comes up throughout the day. The words: “Mommy make me __________.” frequently leave her
mouth. She worries about Mae
too. Before I finished Mae’s princess
dress she reminded me almost hourly that Mae didn’t yet have a princess dress,
and that I needed to sew one.
As I cut the fabric for the latest dress she watched, with a
slightly worried look on her face before saying “Mommy, can you knit it back together?”

And I like that her first thought when we need (or want)
something is that we can make it.
I think this might be why we have (so far) never had a tantrum in a toy
aisle. We’re way more likely to
have a scene in JoAnn’s, which usually involves Sadie running up and grabbing a
bolt of fabric while saying: “I like this one more better Mommy!” while I
scramble to make sure it doesn’t fall, along with the five other teetering
bolts around it, to the floor in a pile of gauzy sparkling organza (it’s
happened).

Then again, I didn’t know a single person growing up
(through college) that just wanted to
be a stay-at-home mom. Something
like that would have been seen (by ourselves and our peers) as a horrible waste
of our very-special-one-of-a-kind-brilliance.
Of course, being a mom involves much more than just making
things, or manual labor. As
Chesterson said:
"To be Queen Elizabeth within a definite
area, deciding sales, banquets, labours, and holidays; to be Whitely within a
certain area, providing toys, boots, cakes and books; to be Aristotle within a
certain area, teaching morals, manners, theology, and hygiene; I can imagine
how this can exhaust the mind, but I cannot imagine how it could narrow it. How
can it be a large career to tell other people about the Rule of Three, and a
small career to tell one's own children about the universe? How can it be broad
to be the same thing to everyone and narrow to be everything to someone? No, a
woman's function is laborious, but because it is gigantic, not because it is
minute."
As usual Chesterton’s wisdom holds true over time because
the truth doesn’t change.

I hope that’s something that I can impart to Sadie and Mae
and to any other children we have: A classical education that teaches them to think, alongside a
more practical education that teaches them to sew a button, knit a sweater or
crochet a blanket, make an inexpensive healthy dinner, or build a book
shelf. I want them to understand
that knowledge is beautiful but that so is action and work, and that the two go
hand in hand. And hopefully they’ll discover that most tasks become easier, and
some are even quite enjoyable (I think it’s safe to say I’m addicted to
knitting, crocheting and sewing), once a person is proficient in them.

So true. Love this!
ReplyDeleteOh this is SO TRUE. Being able to make what you need and having the confidence and mindset to DO so are as valuable in educating the kids as the great books!
ReplyDeleteMy husband can make anything I think. He can repair anything from the engine of the truck to an electron microscope-- and I am in awe of him!! HE thinks it is nothing but he came from a family who built what they needed, repaired what they had and kept going. I covet his attitude and skills for our children!!
Thank you for a post that brightened my morning.
I think you speak so many mothers' hearts, Cammie! Thank you in the way you express it.
ReplyDeleteAnd having built everything from my deck to MY cabinets, and re-built everything from my car to my plumbing, the money saved from "doing for yourself" is money that is available for "doing for others." Doing, for myself and for others, is one of the best lessons my parents ever taught me. I have never looked to any one else for help, before I first looked to myself, then my God.
ReplyDeleteIt is a most precious lesson you teach you little ones. Your parents must be very proud of you -- the ones here, and in heaven.
Well said, both your words and Chesterton's. It's very true that we need both sides of the coin - classical and practical education - yet we live in a society where some of the most brilliant individuals "work" in think tanks all day, and SAHMs are seen as wasting their intelligence.
ReplyDeleteHave you heard of a book called "Shop Class as Soul Craft"? I haven't read it but my husband highly recommends it. Sounds similar to some of these ideas - about a man who leaves his job as an "intellectual" to repair motorcycles for a living, and how that affects his philosophy of life.
Love this blog. Hope you're feeling better!
Excellent! Thank you for sharing. I am hoping to become more adept at the hands on things; this year everyone is getting handmade crochet items for Christmas!
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